Are you shy or an introvert…….or both?
To say my life is busy and varied right now is an understatement!
However I am feeling very happy and content.
 
We have recently moved back to the UK for a while after living there for just over 3 years.  We will still be visiting regularly though.  I really like the fact that we move from one to the other quite a bit as both the UK and Spain then remain a novelty.

I will miss my morning dog walks along the beach, but there are really nice things about the UK to replace those for a while.

Sunny walks in Spain
Interesting walks in the UK
Visiting Buckingham Palace

We have been looking at schools and colleges.  It’s been a bit of a learning experience to say the least. I have also being doing lots of research into something called ‘unschooling’ (homeschool without a curriculum) and I am really drawn towards it as I feel there is lots that we can teach children without them being in the classroom.  I am actually having a practice week this week with my youngest and he has already won two games of Monopoly and a game of Scrabble!

We will be finalising decisions on all this as a family very soon.

In between sorting the children out I have been working on getting my online course completed.  It will be called ‘Success Formula For Shy Entrepreneurs’.  I am so excited about this reaching it’s final stages.  All the videos are recorded, I am just in the process of putting it all together and designing the layout etc.  I hope to be launching in a couple of weeks.  If you would like to hear about it as soon as it’s live you can register your interest at www.adeledecaso.com/courses
 
Recording the videos
Success Formula For Shy Entrepreneurs

I have also found time to read amongst all this and I have been reading a lot about introversion.  Although some people say that shyness and introversion are two completely separate things, I believe that an individual can be both shy and introverted,  I certainly am.  Here is what the two mean to me;

 

Shyness – being uncomfortable, nervous or feeling awkward when around other people

Introversion – preferring your own company or the company of just a few people rather than being in large groups.

 

So, for example, I would prefer to have several small dinner parties with a few guests than throw one big party with lots of guests.

At the party I would feel uncomfortable, shy and anxious, but if just a few of the same guests were attending a dinner party at my house, I would not feel any of these things.

So, my shyness can appear in large groups still, but in small groups I am ok.  And the fact that I prefer small groups would suggest that I am an introvert.

 

I recently came across a lady named Morra Aarons-Mele, she has written a book called ‘Hiding In The Bathroom’.  I have read some of her blog posts, she has managed to build a successful business with a huge network, but she talks about her anxieties and how she doesn’t like to leave the house if she doesn’t have to. She also points out that a lot of the successful entrepreneurs she has interviewed are not the outgoing, always on it superstars that we imagine.

Reading about her ‘hiding in the bathroom’ reminded me of the days when I used to sit in my car on the carpark when I got to work until the very last possible moment.  

 

“Every single day I build in lots of breaks and alone time for myself, even it it’s just 5 minutes in a quiet room.”

 

And I love how she has learnt to embrace her anxiety just like me with my shyness.  She says…..

 

“Now that I’ve realised my anxiety is part of who I am, and that, rather than fight it all the time, I embrace what it gives me, like excellent people skills, empathy and drive.  I think my anxiety and I are business partners, frequently negotiating, sometimes arguing, but often creating great work.”

 

The last thing I want to mention is my new ideas journal.  I am currently attempting to write down 10 ideas each day suggested by James Altucher.  Most days I don’t manage 10, but even so it’s a great exercise.  I love it, it really gets the creative juices flowing.  James says that if you can write down new ideas each day you really start to stretch your ‘idea muscle’ which in time will serve you massively.

 

My ideas journal
10 ideas per day

As you probably know, I love journals and any reason I can find to write in a new one is just fantastic!

Anyway, that’s all for now, see you very soon!
Adele x
 

Don’t forget, if you don’t already have it, you can download a copy of my FREE ebook, ‘The Top 10 Things That Hold Shy People Back From Achieving Success – And what to do about them’

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